I really don't understand what drives this, and it confuses me. I identify as, primarially, a Dominant in the BDSM community. More realistically, I'm a Service-oriented Sadist, in that I will control and abuse you in every way that gets you off. I enjoy berating and harassing and beating women, pubically, if that's what gets them off.
Here's the big secret, though: I'm pro-equality for everyone. I want to see my submissives as strong willed, independant, powerful women. I just want to see them get down on their knees and kiss my boots, because it makes them feel secure. I want to see them bend over a spanking bench and take a paddle until my arm gets tired because they feel better when it hurts them to sit down for a month.